"I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be." β Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Also THANK YOU to everyone who comments on, interacts with, or even just silently reads my updates... I have been too shy to reply π₯Ίπ It's my aim to get back on NC soon-- assuming this blogpost doesn't obliterate the small web lol
If I may say this gentlyβI'm glad you found a way to be you that you're happy with! But not everyone has the same experiences; so many of my friends are genuinely happier having transitioned to the gender they identify with. Less depressed, more able to engage with the world, more comfortable expressing themselves.
You mention that it's not bad that you developed early, it's bad that boys and men harassed you over itβand the reason why trans depression and suicide rates are so high is often because of the way that society treats trans people. I think those experiences could be ones to connect over, rather than a reason to dismiss other people's experiences of gender. Just food for thought.
Dear Birdwrongs, thank you for your gentleness. But I must point out that you can enjoy all the gender nonconformity of a trans identity without believing and spreading misogynistic lies. If those friends of yours are "happier" espousing a cultlike ideology, I'd guess they're ignorant or in denial about sexism, or perhaps one of the rare Evil Women who gets off on misogyny and child abuse
Bcus that's what the trans community promotes. Once you see it, you cannot UNsee it, and that's why I keep talking about it. Maybe I didn't talk about it ENOUGH, honestly... Basically: Drop the T, just be GNC! There is nothing inferior or incorrect about being female
my friends are quite aware of sexism, in fact! none of them made their decisions about their gender based on stereotypesβI know femme trans men and butch trans women and plenty of others with unique relationships to gender. and, wellβthey all so frequently disagree on things that it's hard to think of them as a cult, ha ha.
As a cis lesbian fully happy with where I am genderwise, I've found a lot of solidarity and kinship with trans people. Of course, I don't know the people you've met, but you haven't met my friends, either, and those are some big assumptions.
It's perfectly possible to care for the rights and wellness of women while not being one or not having been born one, and seeing that in the people I know gives me hope for the world and for the way things could be. I hope you can see that hope in people, too, even if they don't relate to gender the way you do.
I've been inactive lately because life got in the way and im extremely exhausted but ill always stand by you flonne, this was beautifully written!!! love u
As usual, I had too much to say to respond with just comments. Let's all be mindful of other's feeds and, if you are also feeling wordy, link a text file or your own blog, or post a new message directly to my profile to start a new comment thread. https://vivarism.net/diary/25/mini.txt
Thanks so much for writing this. It's so important; especially sinister is how this movement is advertised to young girls. I also experimented with being NB, in retrospect I wanted to feel stronger and be released from social expectation. Realized pretending that I wasn't a girl didn't change anything and I can still be as masc as I want otherwise. I'm just glad I didn't go on T like my friends, who now regret it.
happy new year everybuddy (βΛβΛβ) no clickbait today, only peace and love. the biggest of big Thank You's to @cloverbell for drawing the art i used on my new yume section!!!!
happy new year, flonne! your customizations are all super cute! (i really need to redownload rainmeterβ¦) maybe you could have one big sans in the middle and all the others kinda circle around him?
omg no way front and center on the vivarism yume page⦠happy new year Flonne! wishing you lots of health and luck and sans ^_-
happy new year flonne!! as usual, seeing your web work is such a joy. congrats on the move and i hope 2025 is amazing for you β₯
OMG I am so happy you are playing Groove Coaster and loving it!! I agree, its so underrated! The maps are so detailed and themed perfectly to their respective songs. If you ever get the chance to, you should try playing the groove coaster arcade cabinet. Its sooo fun, and my favorite way to play it. I used to play it so much I was on the leaderboard at my local arcade lol!
Happy New Year Flonne!! Your customizations are so cute, maybe I should customize my desktop a bit... Volcano Princess looks really cute and fun, I'll have to check it out
AHHH you used the art Lune made you for your yume section banner!! It's SO cute and perfect!!! ;o; β₯ Happy new year Flonne! It's been wonderful to talk and I am so happy and grateful to call you my friend and my [redacted] sister. β₯ Looking at how you customize everything in your life to include Sans is so adorable. I hope your 2025 is even better. Also baby metalhead Flonne?? Hehehe, love it
kyle neocities you WILL make thumbnail previews for my offsite page updates I COMMAND THEE.... anyways, go read my new blog https://vivarism.net/diary/24/1125 goodnight <333
congrats on beating the bpd allegations! i empathise a lot with some of the stuff you've written here, especially since I was on tumblr when the BPD self-dx thing was really going around and wanted an answer for why i was Like That:tm:. cheering on your efforts towards being your vivariest (if it works as an adjective, lol) self as always!
Im always wishing you the best floone! I'm so happy you have support system to help you. You know i'm always here for you π©΅π§‘
I feel torn on the concept of personality disorders because on one hand, it's a pretty modern concept and a bandaid diagnosis for what can easily be described as environmental behaviors that cause PTSD/C-PTSD + the whole trope that women are branded as "BPD" by professionals for any little thing. Some autistic traits can be considered BPD. But the specific patterns of behavior attached to "the big ones" are real.
And the trendiness of it in certain communities makes people actively want to "be" that, reshape their behavior to "fit" it, or weaponize it to justify actual abusive behavior... I'm guilty of throwing around the phrase derogatorily and have gone under fire for it in private, but how it's kind of a meme-y trendy dx is why. I don't know where I'm going with this.
Floone, you are so strong, resilient, brave, and kind. I'm incredibly proud of you. Never forget the world is a better place with you in it. <3
@kiley omg my vivariest... that absolutely took me out. thank you for that and for your encouragement too <333 @poom, i love you so much π₯Ίπ thank you for everything!!! @capy whoa im glad that you found my entry so interesting!!! labels can only be so useful. it's interesting how they influence our perceptions of others. & @robyn I LOVE YOU!!!!! my world is better with YOU in it π
Admittedly I was a little confused BPD was ever a possibility for you! It seems that often, BPD is simply a label to slap on women to be written off to never take seriously, to shame them for having emotions. Thank goodness Bree and your therapist put an end to that! I'm so happy you both have the support you need from each other, it makes me teary eyed. (Β°ΛΠΛΒ°) Your sisters always have your back, and you are loved β₯
I hope you will continue down this path of self-discovery, and to the path of healing. Always rooting for you β₯
ahhhh i'm so happy you finally got diagnosis! it does help a lot since you'll be able to get appropriate help and you will get on right track to heal and move forwards. i always felt that bridget is a really sweet and very warm person, i'm glad you both became friends and i genuinely respect her for supporting you so much <3
β (γΟγ)=β https://vivarism.net/ βββ(oγβ½γ)o EVERYONE PLEASE LOOK AT VIVARISM 3.0!!!!!! (it wont show up on neocities... im working on it)
The return of Flonne wahoo!! New layout is super cute, and congrats on self employment!! Also your flonne.net layout is gorgeous (reminding me i need to play more disgaea ahhh)
thank you everyone for taking a peek at my hard work <333 It's great to see you all again!
so so so so very cute! I had fun looking through everything... adorable and impeccably designed as always. Welcome back! ^^
This is so cute!! I will forever be impressed with your design skills. Everything is always so clean and cohesive. S-tier layout.
Cutest update yet! Your aesthetic taste for kidcore is unmatched. I love browsing Vivarism so much. Truly, the CSS princess γ½(βΏοΎβ½οΎ)γ
tasha!!!!!!! since you left this comment, i've been keeping an eye on your site and wow, you've really come into your own in such a short time, havent you?? i'm impressed by your design sense and the raw force of your aesthetic. your work has only grown in complexity and i'm guessing that means you've put a lot of energy into learning css. to know that i inspired even one line of your code is a true honour <3
i'm very grateful that you took the time to let me know. it took me a couple months to get back to you so i hope you've been doing alright in that time. im not sure what's going on with grad school but i'm always rooting for you, okay? no matter what happens, your life is gonna turn out just fine. we get back what we give, so as long as you keep being your soulful, creative, ambitious self, then everything will work
hopefully you'll see this lol (οΌΒ°ΠΒ°) i may have taken too long. either way i'm sending good vibes for you out into the ether. maybe you are feeling them rn & dont even know why......
https://vivarism.net/diary/24/july here we are... another new day another flonne diary...
rip computer ;_; its not out of the realm of possibility that the computer got bopped around in the move and unstuck the thermal paste off the cpu. hopefully you can fix it soon!
Reading about your history with the Story of Seasons games was so heartwarming! I think I picked up a story of seasons game in an eshop sale (one of the more recent ones.. I was excited that one of the bachelorettes is vietnamese) but I have a habit of abandoning farming games LOL. Iβll have to pick it back up! And Iβve been listening to Dusk to Dawn too, itβs especially pleasant on walks ^^
I follow one site that's php (on another host) but the Neocities mirror of the front page auto-updates when it does. (Also WTF!! Hope the fan gets fixed..)
so glad to catch an update from you!! missed you a lot and always love reading your entries!
glad to hear you finally have your computer back!! i love these desks, i was looking for one myself... they always make me think about 00s computer setups.
i hope you can find one you like sussuri!! the shelf space is a game changer :+D here's an easy link for my diary entry https://vivarism.net/diary/24/june and a clickbait title...? how about VIVARISM GRAND RETURN!
nice to see you back, and great new setup!! :D man, I can totally feel you on the refreshing feeling of "I live here! I get my own space!" - I've been feeling that a lot since I moved to my new place too. I'm glad everything arrived safely!
Oh, that explanation of mental events being like weather was really interesting! Lovely desk setup and hope you have fun decorating the rest of the house!
Your desk is super cute all decorated and guarded by two Sans. Ahhh, Bart though!! Make sure he keeps you well hydrated this summer, it's been sooo hot lately β‘
welcome back flonne and congrats on your puter making it safe and sound!! i can't wait to see what you do with your room, it's already off to a great start! bart β₯ and i hope you will give yourself the patience and grace you deserve. i'm sorry june has been so hard, but i think anyone would have a tough adjustment period after uprooting like you did!
that feeling of your safety being lost is growing pains. it's scary when you try new things!! but afterwards, you realize hey, that wasn't so bad. or if it was difficult, you have the experience to handle it better next time. sometimes we need the rug pulled out from under us in order to move forward, as terrifying as it is. just know we're all rooting for you and support you β₯
I really like your Computer setup <3 and i agree June was wait until it gets better type feeling :( But hey July is gonna get better I Hope lmao
@gatari, tysm!! i'm glad your move went smoothly, too. here's to new beginnings for both of us, yeah? @celeste, im glad my weather metaphor made sense to someone else lolol. let's both pay more attention to the clouds passing through βοΈ @pom ... TWO!!!
@bree, trust me, me and bart are an inseparable pair. you cant rly see it in the photo but he has yellow horn things that are good to chew. @arachne, youre so right about growing pains. whatever hardship im enduring is just exp points that will help me on my next adventure and, in my new home, i'm certain i'll have tons more. thank you for coming along for the ride β‘!!!
@johnny, yes, we'll definitely have lots more happy moments in July. thank you for your optimism!
Hi Emmy!!! I haven't got the chance to read your site yet, but I'm so excited to see another yumejo in town!!! Thanks for linking me :+D If you have any resource suggestions lmk, I'll add them! Lastly, here's a warm welcome from me and Sans to Mr & Mrs Zenigata <333
"Someday, surely, I'll recognise my humanity." - important words. Thank you for sharing a part of your day, and wishing you the best for the near future ! Proud of you.
good job confronting your fears, Flonne! Iβm proud of you! A really good cafe that you can walk to and from will give you a lot of opportunities to practice, too.. not to mention a delicious incentive. βDo it scaredβ is a good sentiment, Iβll remember itβ¦ whenever Iβm scared but have to push through Iβm comforted when I repeat the words βfuck it we ballβ lol
Really proud of you for going out more, Flonne! I love the June's layout, the blue is so calming...
i love the new blog look for june!! it's like i'm gently being caressed by the tide at sea to my ankles and the gentle breeze that accompanies it at the same time. i'm really proud of you for pushing yourself as far as you have and sans is too!! do it scared is a good motto, that's how we grow and begin to see that hey, this isn't so scary after all. i hope you're enjoying all that delicious food. β₯
congrats on the steps you've made towards overcoming your phobias, flonne! im glad that you got to have a tasty treat as a good reward for it also
I'm so proud of you for going outside! The blueness of the sky, the breeze, the sun, the firm earth, take all of it in! You are human, and we're all connected by land and sea. Deep blues really signify the depth of change and nature, don't they? I hope you can enjoy the mountains and beach maybe one day, Sans will be with you!
ahh gosh you're all so kind to me, thank you;; your encouragement lifts my spirits and makes me want to try a little harder. i'm glad that this month's layout gives everyone the cerulean summer vibes i was hoping to convey! && lune i LOVE "fuck it we ball," remind me to show you the sans version
It's also useful to think of "bravery" as like a muscle- If you keep using it, it'll get easier. I carry one of my Ivy keychains with me on a carabiner now to make going out less boring...
clickbait title: flonne says the most unhinged shit ever, proving she is a legit bigot fr fr. anyways im sleepy, love you all, goodnight
This is really gross and I'm disappointed to have been following you in the first place. Trans women have always been a part of our community and so many of our battles have been won SPECIFICALLY because of trans women. I know this message won't change your mind and you're only going to double down further, but I hope that one day you have the epiphany you need. Get well soon.
THIS is the epiphany my friend. Maybe one day you'll have it too. I'm guessing you believe the revisionist history about Stonewall, "Marsha" P. Johnson, etc? You might want to learn what actually happened. (Short ver: he ain't even there.) The men you're caping for wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. They'd post pics of your charred corpse to porn sites